Thoughtful Wife Gift Formula

Have you ever wondered how to “add” thoughtfulness to your gifts toyour wife? This seemingly elusive property can be added to just about any gift with two simple steps.

Most guys think that once the gift has been identified and acquired that the process stops there, however they are missing out on a huge opportunity to take their gift to the next level.

Just a Second, What’s The Point?

Take a second to think about the end objective. The aim of giving a gift in the first place is not just because it’s tradition or because the occasion calls for it, the real aim is making your wife feel special. If you give a thoughtful present that demonstrates that you put some care and attention into the choosing of it then it will make a much better present because it will make her feel cared for and special.

Step 1. Presentation

Many guys have a bind spot when it comes to wrapping gifts. They either don’t wrap it or they just use whatever comes to hand to shield it from view until the last minute. Perhaps they think that it’s just a total waste of money or is a ridiculous embellishment. There is no need to go to extreme lengths, but if you are going to go to the bother of buying a gift then you should wrap it.

A wrapped-up present has something exciting about it, when you unwrap it, it’s a bit like being a child again. There are plenty of hassle-free gift wrap options like boxes, or bags with tissue paper.

By giving a gift a fancy exterior you are transforming it into something much more exciting. Not only do you give her the pleasure of unwrapping an “exciting parcel” but you get to watch her do it.

Step 2. Presentation

There is another level of presentation that most guys miss out on, it’s the words that accompany the gift. Some men just thrust their gift away hurriedly and silently, or with a few short words, or worse, with an apology.

Never, ever apologise for a gift as you are just robbing your wife of the pleasure of receiving your gift.

When a gift is given, it has maximum thoughtfulness impact if there are a few accompanying words. All that is required is a little something about why you choose that gift for her.

Even if it’s one of those “old faithful” gifts that you get her every year, you can still say something like “I chose this because I know you love it”. Contrast that with “Sorry love, it’s all they had!”.

Same gift but the words that you use along with it can either raise it up to new heights or drop it down a level.

By making sure that you pay attention to the two types of presentation- the gift wrap and the accompanying words, you can be sure of maximizing the positive impact that your gift will have on your wife.

You can make your gift seem more special to her which it turn will make her feel more special to you, which is the whole point of a gift in the first place!

How To Show Your Wife You Love Her

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways…”
–by Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861)

OK it’s time to get back to basics.

Why Buy Any Gift?

We all know that the reason why buy gifts in the first place is a way of showing our love- that’s the aim to keep in mind. However, just like there are different learning styles (visual, auditory, kinesthetic) so there are corresponding ways for feeling loved.

Visual Gift Ideas

The visual learner absorbs information best by looking at pictures, graphs, diagrams, and illustrations. To communicate love, the visual person needs to see it. The best gifts are tangible things that can be seen:

• visually interesting or colourful gifts
• flowers
• photographic gifts that show you both together

When speaking to your wife, if she’s a visually oriented person, look her directly in the eye and be aware of your body language and facial expressions, as they’ll all be providing subconscious visual clues to her.

Auditory Gift Ideas

The auditory oriented person needs to hear it in order to “get it”. Love is communicated by telling her that you love her and also by the tone of the voice- these all “say” that you care about her. The best gifts for the auditory oriented wife are:

• Music and audio books
• Concerts
• Opportunities to talk and discuss e.g. a dinner or date in place where you can talk and listen to each other

An auditory-oriented partner needs to hear the words “I love you” frequently.

Kinesthetic Gift Ideas
In a relationship with a kinesthetic oriented woman, if you don’t touch her often, she may not feel loved by you or may even feel rejected.

Snuggles on the couch, big bear hugs, holding hands or massages are all happily received by kinesthetics. The best gifts for the auditory oriented wife are:

• massages or pampering at a spa
• dancing together
• soft, warm, tactile fabrics and goods like snuggly sweaters, scarves, pashminas

How to tell which type your wife is

By knowing which type your wife is, you can tailor-make the gift to suit her and know that it will be communicating the real purpose of the gift more powerfully.

If you have read this article and still have no idea which type or types your wife fits in to then I offer two strategies:

1. Cover all your bases with all three!

Most people have a bit of each in their make-up so by choosing gifts and activities that cover the auditory, visual and kinesthetic you are making sure that your message will be delivered in the gift.

2. Ask her.

With questions like “Do you know that I love you?” and then “How do you know?” she will reveal the ways that she currently associates with your showing her how you love her. Listen carefully and then try to figure out which category it is. Or you can just do more of the same, but better and use your imagination to expand on it.

I hope this has offered you an insight into more effective ways of coming up with wife gift ideas!

You may live with your wife and be the family member that she spends most of her time with but…that doesn’t mean that you are automatically going to be the one who can come up with the best gift ideas!

Maybe it’s like that saying about not being able to see the wood for the trees?

Whatever it is, you can really use some outside help on thinking up the best wife gift ideas and if your wife has a sister that she talks to then you are in luck!

I’m a sister, and especially round about gift-giving times of year I’m constantly scanning conversations and emails for clues for gift ideas. Recently I visited a sister and stayed at her house, and just that few days worth of listening and taking note has given me enough “gems” to see me though Christmas and her next birthday with plenty of gift ideas for people who might be in need of some help.

OK so I’m tuned in to this stuff and maybe not everyone’s sister is scanning & storing top gift ideas like I do, but, the point is, that the information is there and with a little encouragement you might uncover a gem or two that you never would have thought of yourself.

So your mission is to get in touch with a woman that wife regularly talks to and to extract some ideas. If your wife has a sister then that’s a good bet, otherwise a close friend of even a colleague that she gets on well with. You can just be honest about it and say that you’d really appreciate some help in coming up with new ideas. Presumably the sister/friend of your wife’s actually likes your wife so she’ll be invested in wanting to help out!

You can ask if she has mentioned wanting to try anything out recently- that can be anything from a new food, kind of exercise or cosmetic product, and most of these will tranlate very easily into gift opportunities. If it’s someone that your wife has known for a long time then you can rewind a little and ask questions about what she wanted when she was little.

This strategy may not give you a list of ready-made ideas, but it is sure to provoke some thought and produce some new ideas that will help you come with fantastic gift ideas for your wife.